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Takzkirah

2008-03-11T18:31:00.000-07:00

Di riwayatkan bahawa pada suatu hari Rasulullah S.A.W sedang duduk bersama para sahabat. Kemudian datang pemuda Arab masuk kedalam masjid dengan menangis. Apabila Rasulullah S.A.W melihat pemuda itu menangis, maka baginda pun berkata, "Wahai orang muda, kenapa kamu menangis?" Maka berkata orang muda itu, "Ya Rasulullah S.A.W, ayah saya telah meninggal dunia dan tidak ada kain kafan dan tidak ada orang yang hendak memandikannya." Lalu Rasulullah S.A.W memerintahkan Abu Bakar r.a. dan Umar r.a. ikut orang muda itu untuk melihat masalahnya. Setelah mengikut orang itu, maka Abu Bakar r.a dan Umar r.a. mendapati ayah orang muda itu telah bertukar rupa menjadi babi hitam. Maka mereka pun kembali dan memberitahu kepada Rasulullah S.A.W, "Ya Rasulullah S.A.W, kami lihat mayat ayah orang ini bertukar menjadi babi hutan yang hitam." Kemudian Rasulullah S.A.W dan para sahabat pun pergi kerumah orang muda itu dan baginda pun berdoa kepada Allah S.W.T. Kemudian mayat itu pun tukar kepada bentuk manusia semula. Lalu Rasulullah S.A.W dan para sahabat menyembahyangkan mayat tersebut. Apabila mayat itu hendak dikebumikan, maka sekali lagi mayat itu berubah menjadi seperti babi hutan yang hitam. Maka Rasulullah S.A.W pun bertanya kepada pemuda itu, "Wahai orang muda, apakah yang telah dilakukan oleh ayahmu sewaktu dia didunia dulu?" Berkata orang muda itu, "Sebenarnya ayahku ini tidak mahu mengerjakan solat." Kemudian Rasulullah S.A.W bersabda, "Wahai para sahabatku, lihatlah keadaan orang yang meninggalkan sembahyang. Dihari kiamat nanti akan dibangkitkan oleh Allah S.W.T seperti babi hutan yang hitam." Di zaman Abu Bakar r.a ada seorang lelaki yang meninggal dunia dan sewaktu mereka menyembahyanginya, tiba2 kain kafan itu bergerak. Apabila mereka membuka kain kafan itu, mereka melihat ada seekor ular sedang membelit leher mayat tersebut serta memakan daging dan menghisap darah mayat. Lalu mereka cuba membunuh ular itu. Apabila mereka cuba untuk membunuh ular itu, maka berkata ular tersebut, "Laa ilaaha illallahu Muhammadu Rasulullah, mengapakah kamu semua hendak membunuh aku? Aku tidak berdosa dan aku tidak bersalah. Allah S.W.T yang memerintahkan kepadaku supaya menyeksanya sehingga sampai hari kiamat." Lalu para sahabat bertanya, "Apakah kesalahan yang telah dilakukan oleh mayat ini?" Berkata ular, "Dia telah melakukan tiga kesalahan, di antaranya; 1. Apabila dia mendengar azan, dia tidak mahu datang untuk sembahyang 2. Dia tidak mahu keluarkan zakat hartanya. 3. Dia tidak mahu mendengar nasihat para ulama. Maka inilah balasannya".

Teach Your Kids About Money

2008-01-29T01:57:00.000-08:00

Children aren’t born with an understanding of how money works; all parents learn that one quickly. A young child sees the things they want or need just appear from Mommy and Daddy. The fact that Mommy or Daddy gave money to the sales clerk means nothing to them. So how do you teach your kids about money? You have to consider your child’s age first. My daughter, for example, is three, going on four. Right now she knows the names of the various coins, but the difference in value between a dollar and a quarter, for example, is completely unclear to her. To help her learn, we are letting her spend just a little bit of money. We gave her a $3 budget to buy her baby brother a birthday present a couple months ago. She struggled quite a bit finding presents in her price range and had to settle for something other than what she had wanted to buy for him. Specifically, she wanted to buy a farm for him, but most of those we saw were in the $20 price range. She finally found a variety of small gifts that fit her budget. She was so delighted to be able to give the cashier the money we had given to her. Now, obviously this taught her very little about the value of money. She didn’t have to earn it, and she really didn’t understand why some things cost too much. But it was a very early lesson in sticking to a budget. You need to decide when you give your children money and why. Some parents prefer to give a regular allowance with no association with getting chores done, etc. Others have a set rate given provided chores are done, while still others have a set rate per chore completed. There’s no right or wrong way, but you do need to be clear on when your kids get money. Don’t forget to consider ways in which your kids may earn extra money. Also consider making rules on how allowance may be spent. Many families have their kids put their allowance in multiple containers - one for immediate use, one short term savings, one long term savings, one for charity, or any combination of containers. Saving money is a habit many parents have trouble keeping, but it is a great one to teach your children. By the same token, try to avoid teaching your kids to rely too much on credit. Some parents will let their kids borrow money against their next allowance. Now, managing credit well is a vital skill, but it is one best saved for after kids have managed to learn how to save money well, in my opinion. On special family trips it may be appropriate to loan your child some money, but if it something that can easily be bought later it is far better that they learn the value of saving toward a goal. But there are more ways to teach your kids about money than giving them an allowance. Talk to them about what things cost when you go to the grocery store. Go over what each item costs, and if buying by weight, explain how buying more means you pay more, and that you only want to buy what will actually be used. This is also a good time to teach them about quality, and how to look for the best produce. Children are very proud when they find food that is worth buying and may have a good eye for things once they have been taught what to look out for. Don’t forget to teach them about coupons! Once your child is old enough to not throw them around, he or she may be good at keeping track of your coupons and making sure you remember to use them. As your kids get older you should help them to build a more realistic picture of what things cost. Have them write the checks out for your bills - or, if you have automatic payments as many people do nowadays, go over your statements from your various bills so that they can see how much everything is really costing you. Managing money well is a vital life skill and one that children can begin to learn at a very young age. You don’t have to have your finances in good order before setting a good example for your child. In fact, teaching good money habits to your child might just help you to take a look at how you are spending your money and help you to improve your habits. This is one habit that your kids will be grateful to have later

Sad Story - Menstrual Cycle

2008-01-17T20:03:00.000-08:00

Recently this past week, Nicole Dishuk (age 31...newly graduated student with a doctoral degree about to start her new career as a Doctor...) was flown into a nearby hospital, because she passed out. They found a blood clot in her neck, and immediately took her by helicopter to the ER to operate. By the time they removed the right half of her skull to relieve the pressure on her brain; the clot had spread to her brain causing severe damage. Since last Wednesday night, she was battling... they induced her into a coma to stop the blood flow, they operated 3 times... Finally, they said there was nothing left that they could do... they found multiple clots in the left side of her brain... the swelling wouldn't stop, and she was on life support... She died at 4:30 yesterday. She leaves behind a husband, a 2yr old Brandon and a 4yr old Justin... The CAUSE of DEATH - they found was a birth control she was taking that allows you to only have your period 3 times a year... They said it interrupts life's menstrual cycle, and although it is FDA approved... shouldn't be - So to the women in my address book - I ask you to boycott this product & deal with your period once a month - so you can live the rest of the months that your life has in store for you. The name of this new birth control pill is LYBREL. If you go to Lybrel.com http://lybrel.com/, you will find at least 26 pages of information regarding this drug. The second birth control pill is, SEASONIQUE. If you go to the website of, Seasonique.com http://seasonique .com/, you will find 43 pages of information regarding this drug. The warnings and side effects regarding both pills are horrible

Baby Formula - Cup Training

2008-01-15T22:12:00.000-08:00

Begin cup training when babies can hold their heads steady while sitting up usually at 6 to 7 months. Begin by holding the cup with your hands around the baby’s hands. Also, put only a small amount of liquid in the cup. To avoid spills, use a special cup that has a spout at the top and is weighted at the bottom. Continue to give most of the formula from the bottle or breast to make sure the baby gets enough. But give juice and some milk and water from a cup. By the end of the first year, the baby should be able to take most liquids from a cup. Some babies are ready to give up the bottle by 8 or 9 months, and others are not ready until 15 months. Watch for these signs: playing with the bottle, looking around while sucking, or not taking the bottle when given other foods. In weaning, offer milk for one feeding from a cup. If the baby does not finish, give the rest from a bottle. Continue offering milk from a cup when the baby is hungry. Many babies can be weaned completely when they are about a year old. Some will want a bottle at bedtime until they are 2 years old. Do not give babies a bottle every time they cry.

New Baby..... Wan Zulfa Husna

2007-12-06T22:51:00.000-08:00

My Loving Son.... Adam

2007-07-03T01:56:00.000-07:00

Baby Photo Contest – 5 Good Reasons To Enter Your Baby Or Toddler

2007-07-01T21:07:00.000-07:00

You think your child is the cutest thing on the planet, but so does every other parent. While that may be your sole purpose in entering a child into a photo contest, here are 5 other reasons you should considering entering your baby or toddler into a baby photo contest. #1 – Most baby photo contests offer prizes. Most of the time, the Grand Prize is Cash. That is the easiest money you could ever make. This would be a great way to save money for college. #2 – If you are looking to get your child into modeling, pageants, TV or magazines, baby photo contests is a great way to start. Some baby photo contests even send your baby photo entries to modeling agencies if they like what they see. This is great exposure for your child. #3 – It’s a fun and exciting thing to do for you baby. Imagine your child’s surprise when they know how much you thought of them that you entered them into a baby photo contest. #4 – You have tons of baby photos. Do something different with them. Scrapbooks and photo albums are wonderful, but entering your baby into a baby photo contest is exciting! #5 – Satisfaction of winning! You know your baby is a cutie pie. Winning would be proof! Some baby photo contests even offer prizes to all children whether they place in the top 3 or not. Some baby photo contests are free to enter and others you may need to pay for. I have found that those with fees offer the better prizes and have less competition for your baby and toddler. Be savvy in choosing the baby photo contest you enter. The less popular the site and contest, the less competition you will have. There are also some baby photo contests that offer online voting. With those contests, you have more control of your child's chances at winning. Remember that baby photo contest are a form of entertainment that can benefit your child, however you musn't take them too seriously. Otherwise you miss out on the fun of the whole experience. Good Luck in finding a great baby photo contest.

Staying At Home Or Working- Which Is Best For You

2007-07-01T20:53:00.000-07:00

Most mothers struggle with the question of whether to stay at home with their children or work. If you’re trying to make that decision, you know that it can be very difficult, because there are advantages and disadvantages to both sides. Here are some things to consider when making your decision. Can you afford to stay home? This one seems obvious, but the question requires consideration. There are costs associated with working, such as child care, gas, wear and tear on your car, clothing, lunches and parking. Deduct these expenses from your paycheck and see what’s left. Next, look at other expenses you can cut. Would it be worth it to you to cut back on vacations and luxuries like cable television if it meant you could be home? If you didn’t have a commute to work, could you settle for a less expensive car? Once you’ve examined all the alternatives, you can make a better decision about how staying home will affect you financially. Will you be happy at home? Some women stay home because they feel like it’s the best thing for their children, even though they are personally much happier working. If you are unhappy at home, this will have a negative effect on your children, so you shouldn’t force yourself to stay home if it isn’t where you want to be. Will you be miserable if you go back to work? Conversely, mothers who truly want to be home with their children, but go to work each day just because the paycheck is a necessity are not getting the best from their life, either. If you fall into this category, maybe it’s time to examine a career alternative that might be a good compromise. Could you cut your hours? Could you telecommute at your present job, or find a job that would allow you to work out of your home? Fortunately, today’s employers offer more alternatives in hours and work environment that make balancing your work and home life a little easier. Remember that the decision you make is not necessarily permanent. Your financial situation could change, as could your personal preferences about working. I have personally done it both ways, and neither is a walk in the park. They are just hard in different ways, and which one works better for you is mostly a matter of your own personal style.

Tips To Get Your Baby Sleeping Better

2007-06-26T01:18:00.000-07:00

Having a new baby is an incredibly exciting time, but it can also be filled with a great deal of anxiety. One major source of that anxiety is if you have a baby who isn’t sleeping well. Sleep deprivation will quickly wear you down, and your baby will be exhausted and irritable as well. When this pattern goes on for months, a once happy little family can rapidly turn into a tired and cranky crowd. Much of this angst can be eliminated by helping your baby learn to sleep independently. A baby who sleeps who sleeps independently is usually a baby who sleeps through the night and takes nice, long naps on a consistent basis. Enabling your baby to learn how to sleep better should be a simple and gentle process, and most often your baby even have to shed a tear. This article will provide you with some important tips from the baby sleep book, Sleep Baby Sleep, and will help get you started on your way to having a better sleeping baby and a well-rested house. #1 Establish a Consistent Nighttime Routine One important aspect to getting your baby to sleep through the night is to have a consistent bedtime ritual. A solid evening routine will help your child understand that it is time for sleep when the routine is complete. A typical schedule might include a bath, some quiet time, a final feeding, and then a good-night kiss. Though your particular routine may vary, it is important make sure you have some kind of consistency at bedtime. #2 Help your Baby Learn how to Fall Asleep Independently Each time your baby is ready to sleep, no matter what time of day or night it is, you have a brand new opportunity to help your baby learn how to fall asleep without your help. If you try your hardest to seize each of these opportunities, your baby will be sleeping through the night sooner than you can believe. Keep in mind though that this is a process, and not an overnight miracle. Be consistent in your efforts and you will quickly teach your baby how to fall asleep without your help. #3 Put your Baby to Sleep Awake If you get only one idea from this article, it’s that you need to try to put your baby to sleep while he is still awake. In other words, try to avoid having your baby fall asleep before you put him down. Be sure that your routine includes putting your baby in the crib or bassinet before she is asleep. If you put your baby to bed awake, she will more readily learn how to fall asleep without your help and your baby will sleep much better. #4 Establish a Daytime Nap Routine Sometimes figuring out a good daytime routine can be even more challenging than the one at bedtime. Out of sheer exhaustion and the desire to get a few minutes to yourself, you might be inclined to do absolutely anything to get your baby down for a nap. The problem with this is that your baby will begin to need that particular method in order to nap (for example, driving around, rocking, nursing, etc). You won’t be happy if your baby can only take a nap in the car, or nap only if you lie down beside her, or only if you rock her to sleep. Instead, try to get your baby napping by falling asleep alone, and you’re likely to wind up with a great little sleeper on your hands. #5 The Family Bed – should you or shouldn’t you? A family bed is not a bad thing, and many families the world over would have it no other way. If it’s something you want and have planned for, then by all means do it! On the other hand, if you have wound up with a family bed only because your baby cannot fall asleep any other way, then it might time to rethink your situation. A family bed could last for years, and if unwanted, often results in frustration and resentment and chronic sleep deprivation. #6 Waking up Throughout the Night Most, if not all, babies wake up several times throughout the night. Even a baby who is already sleeping through the night wakes up numerous times during the night. The key is that if your baby knows know how to fall back to sleep on his own, he won’t need you to put him back to sleep. So, don’t rush in as soon as your baby wakes up in the middle of the night. Instead, give it some time and you might be pleasantly surprised to find that your baby falls back to sleep on his own. #7 Getting Baby on a Schedule Most people thrive on some sort of a schedule, and babies are no different. Your child is likely to function much better if he becomes familiar with the same events that happen throughout the day. If you get your baby on a schedule with a regular agenda, she will quickly figure out when it is time for sleep and will fall asleep much easier. Keep in mind though that everyone needs a little flexibility built into their life, so make sure that you are not too inflexible with your baby’s daily routine. #8 Avoid using Aids to Help your Baby Sleep Many exhausted parents resort to external aids to get their babies sleeping (for example, constantly using a pacifier, driving your baby around, and rocking or nursing your baby to sleep). Though your baby might initially fall asleep sleep quicker with these external aids, you are ultimately making your job much more difficult. The problem is that it helps you avoid teaching your baby how to fall asleep alone. Instead, take the time to get your baby falling asleep without any help, and he will fall asleep faster and sleep better. #9 Be Consistent The more regular you are in how you put your baby to sleep, the quicker and easier it will be for your child to learn how to sleep independently. No matter how tired you are, or how much you might be dreading the night ahead, a consistent effort will pay off quickly. Be patient with yourself, as it is not always easy to keep with your plan when you are intensely sleep deprived. Just be as consistent as possible, and you will see results. #10 Take Time for Yourself It’s so easy to forget about yourself when you have a new baby. But playing the parent role 24/6, and having no time of your own could cause you to grow resentful and feel deprived. Instead, make a conscious effort to ensure that you get some time for yourself. You’ll feel rejuvenated, happier, and you’ll have more energy to devote to your family. You can and will be an amazing parent even though you get a little bit of downtime, and there’s no better time to do it than when your baby is sleeping soundly. Enabling your baby to sleep independently is truly a priceless gift that you’ll give to everyone under your roof. Your baby will be much happier if he is better rested, and so will you!